Dating too soon after relationship
The fact is, it's nearly impossible to hide a broken heart; I know I fooled no one when I was trying to do so.My anxiety was evidenced by my inability to make eye contact with a date, which was a sign to women that the lights were on but no one was home emotionally.But I was still addicted to the notion that the only way to make myself feel better was to find someone new.I clung to the foolish idea that a new woman could make my sorrow disappear, so I went on a few more disastrous dates.They simply moved to the next one, albeit with baggage.Healing a broken heart wasn't a day at the beach, but I accomplished it by treating myself with the kindness, compassion and patience I'd show a best friend. And most important, I forgave myself for my part in the failed relationship.Trying to date immediately after a relationship ends is ill-advised.
Most men I knew didn't take time between relationships.
I'm able to accept my part in relationship issues, and I can see this as a strength, not a weakness.
I maintain my composure during disagreements instead of losing my temper.
When I felt ready to date, I met a savvy woman who asked me a defining first-date question: "What did you learn from your last relationship?
" I explained that I had taken a sabbatical from dating and had spent that time examining my feelings and my relationship behavior.
The sage counsel I sorely needed came from my best friends — men who loved me, didn't judge me and supported my need to rebuild my heart and spirit.