Found my boyfriend on dating website
this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).
If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…
In this case, you know he goes on because you can see it.
But since the beginning of time, men and women have had to learn to trust one another in their relationship.
if that’s not what you want with me or in general, 100% in your mind, heart, body and soul… I don’t think it makes you a bad person, I wouldn’t hate you, I wouldn’t be mad at you.
Life is complicated and the heart wants what the heart wants. “When I saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. “Life is to short to spend our time, energy and youth on something that isn’t spectacular. I’m fine with either and if you don’t want that, we can part ways as friends – sincerely, no hard feelings.
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?A problem with suspicion and snooping is: the more you fear and suspect, the more that fear and suspicion eats away at you and creates more fears and suspicions!This creates a vicious cycle that destroys trust in the relationship and ultimately causes a problem where there was none. You have to remember that you don’t know his full story yet.when we talked a little while ago, you said we’re exclusive… ” (I would listen for if their answer is a clear “yes” or if it’s some vague, weird, wishy-washy response…
in which case, I would interpret that as a not-yes and assume that you are definitely NOT exclusive and assume he is indeed acting accordingly…) If he says yes, I would go on to say: “OK, good, that’s what I thought. we live in a time where everyone can see everything that’s going on online with people.
Again, I don’t think it makes you bad, but I have to look out for myself. So if you do want an exclusive relationship with me, let’s go all the way. And if you do want it, let’s clear the slate and commit to that.” Now…