The game and dating advice for men
Think playing mind games with men smacks of unscrupulous femme fatale-style manipulation? The game plan: No matter how badly you want to dial his digits or reply to his e-mails, you're better off curbing your enthusiasm when you're first dating.
"Games are the way we keep romance alive," says Helen Fisher, Ph D, author of . Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued." What makes these courtship contact sports so appealing is that there are no losers and they pave the way to building a relationship that's humming with excitement. Play these five games with him and we promise you'll score.
A guy who's guaranteed to focus on hearing you out.
The game plan: Don't let him feel like he has a guaranteed spot on your social calendar.
Soon enough, he'll be dying to have you fill in the blanks.
"When you show that you like him but your world doesn't revolve around him, it says you're confident and self-reliant — two very sexy traits to a guy," says Argov."Over dinner, Andy asked me if I was seeing other people.I just said teasingly, 'Well, I certainly don't stay home alone.' I could see the intrigue was killing him." How everybody wins: Where there's secrecy, there's interest.To level the playing field, she avoided giving him her cell-phone number so he didn't have access to her anytime, anyplace. By taking your time calling him back, you become a catch, not a convenience.
When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!
Just don't touch or share sexual innuendoes with other dudes.