But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.After dating an athletic banker with model good looks for two years, Sonali Chitre, 34, has sworn off hotties.A multipart study from Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University researchers found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved in unstable relationships.In one part, the researchers looked at the top 20 actresses on IMDb and found that they tend to have rocky marriages.“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair.“I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.” He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.
“[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says.
Use this confidence to help you understand the fact that no other human being can fix you. You don’t need it to, anyway — you’ve already seen that you’re a whole person. The internal digging is crucial, but it’s also equally as important to be out there living your life. Staying true to yourself is one of the most freeing acts you can do.
Have hobbies like sports, art, or something outdoorsy that help shape who you are. You’ll enjoy life more and your partner will appreciate knowing they’re not your whole life. It’s choosing to be who you are no matter what situation you’re in. A sense of self-trust is something that can never be taken away from you.
Each day take some time to think about things in your life that you’re thankful for.
This practice helps train your mind to start seeing the positive in life and in love. She’s a queer gal whose passions include recovery/sobriety, social justice, body positivity, and intersectional feminism.
“And that’s why at the end of a date they wonder, ‘Oh that girl is so beautiful but so empty.’ That’s happened to me often.” Others say the stereotypes about pretty people being shallow are true, even if they’re hotties themselves.