There is no point knowing your line if you’re going to either not do anything when someone crosses it or when they do, feel bad about the fact that they feel bad about you telling them that you and code reds don’t mix.As I explained to a reader a few days ago who dated someone for six months who basically wanted to get in her knickers by any means necessary so talked about marriage and moving in within a week of meeting her and all sorts of empty promises (Future Faking and Fast Forwarding) only to then say he doesn’t want a girlfriend when she asked where the relationship was headed (he was still pestering her to sleep with him) – this is an open and shut case of assholery! He felt bad that he was wrongfooted and that he has ‘invested’ himself to try and get laid to no avail and is being called on it.And, as I wasn’t familiar with this terminal, I wasn’t going to be separated from the group.So that meant that when we arrived at the gate, I’d missed my last toilet chance. Of course they have them on the plane, but I try to avoid plane toilet visits, especially the minute we take off.When you see things as they are, not how you’d like them to be or what you wish they’d go back to, and you don’t internalise other people’s actions, life gets a whole lot simpler. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.Remember, if you have to read into something so much or start second guessing good decisions, that’s sending you a message you should read – you’re thinking too much. Whether it's figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.
Every day I read about and observe interpersonal relationships.
One reader commented on how her ex was sending ‘I love you’ balloons and roses.